Are you concerned for someone?

If you are concerned that a loved one in experiencing abuse, or are unsure, here are some warning signs:

•Their partner puts them down in front of yourself or others
•Your loved on is constantly worried about making their partner angry
•Their partner is extremely jealous or possessive
•Your loved one has unexplained marks or injuries
•They have become more isolated from friends and family
•They seem depressed or anxious, or you notice changes in their personality

There are a few things to keep in mind if you have a loved one who is experiencing abuse:

REMEMBER THAT THEY ARE IN A VERY DIFFICULT AND OFTEN COMPLICATED SITUATION, BE SUPPORTIVE AND LISTEN.

It can be incredibly difficult to talk about abuse- reassure them that the abuse they are experiencing is not their fault.  Let them know that there is help out there and that you are there for them if they ever need you.

BE NON-JUDGMENTAL.

There are many reasons that someone does not leave an abusive relationship.  By making them feel guilty they may be less inclined to seek help from you when they are ready.  Be patient, and be respectful of their feelings.

ENCOURAGE THEM TO TALK TO PEOPLE WHO CAN PROVIDE HELP AND GUIDANCE.

Identify a local domestic violence service, sexual violence service, and/or other support services that can provide the assistance that they may need. Maybe mention the national helplines. It will be up to your loved on whether they want to make contact with thes supports. However, family, friends and other support people are welcome to make contact to get further information and advice for themselves on supportinng their loved ones.

You can fine a list of Tusla-supported services here.

For more information on the What Would You Do Campaign click here.